Wednesday, May 16, 2012

The Jewel Box

{Friends with Porches}















When my best friend from growing up was in grad school she lived in a turn-of-the-century saltbox cottage right on the Sound in Branford, Connecticut. We called it the Jewel Box, for obvious reasonz (so cute! so tiny! so whitewashed!). She found the place on Craigslist. The rent was a fraction of what she had been paying in downtown New Haven and there was a (leaky, unheated, and completely exposed but nevertheless) outdoor shower. She also had room for a potter's wheel on her porch, because, friends, she had a porch. When it was too cold for skinny-dipping there were bonfires, and if one happened to call her somewhere on the drive between New York and Boston and inquire if perhaps one could stop by to see one's best childhood friend for a quick visit, one could always count on oysters and cold beers for shucking and drinking, respectively. All of which further proves my hypothesis:

Friends with porches = high marks on the Quality of Life Index. Just something to keep in mind when meeting potential new friends. Basically what I am saying is that you should probably just cut to the chase at parties and ask people whether or not they are in possession of a porch (or load-bearing fire escape) before committing yourself to pleasantries and charming small-talk. I plan on using this tactic at the first opportunity. Sha-zam

44 comments:

  1. lily, that painting. omg. i want to ask if it's yours, but perhaps that's silly? anyway, wow does it ever make me happy.

    also, porches = the best thing ever in life, ever. my parents have a front porch (screened-in), and i have so many memories of watching thunderstorms pound down, snuggled under a blanket, feeling safe+secure+surrounded by nature. (i also had an 'accidental' sleepover out there one night, when i was 5, with a babysitter. TOTALLY AWESOME.)

    lucky you to be able to visit whenever... :)

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    1. It's mine! One of my early homestead paintings from Joshua Tree ;)

      Your childhood porch sleep-out sounds positively magical.

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    2. ah-ha! i knew it! i have serious painting-ownership envy right now.

      and i think whenever i have an actual house-home (and not just an apt) i need to work on porch-ifying it, if only to recreate my childhood memories. (and then i'll have a porch-sleepover party, to which you are obviously invited.) :)

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  2. Funny, favorite times and memories are made on porches. Porch monkees. We would pay my young nephew dimes to fetch beers, too lazy to climb out of the rocker or hammock, or for fear of losing a minute of that most important conversation. Again, lovely lovely photos.

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  3. I love a good porch. Warm evenings, slow nights, long conversations and a good beverage ... oh the beauty of a porch. Bisous friend!! Love this post.

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  4. I read this as "Friends with PORSCHES" three times in a row. I think I've been in LA too long.

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    1. ESB, "Friends with Porsches" can be found on my other blog, bigBLING studio.

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  5. WHERE DO YOU FIND THESE PLACES?! I'm convinced you're a mystical creature, who exists only to make my heart hurt via photos of perfection.

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  6. Magic!!! Haha, Pork Slap is one of my favorite treats in Brooklyn. And that painting! It has you written all over it - is it new? Old? It's beautiful, regardless.

    Cue whine: iii waaant a jewellll boxxxx!!!

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  7. THIS ADVICE IS BRILLZ! I need some heavy porch (facing a body of water) action in my life this summer...

    Thanks for sharing the pretty pictures.

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  8. Feel free to come use ours! True, it overlooks an alley in one direction, but if you face the other direction it looks like you're in a forest, so we made sure to arrange the furniture accordingly.

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  9. Is that a waterline I see beyond the Adirondack chairs? THAT's the money shot right there sister. Porches are great but a wide blue ocean in walking distance? Heaven.

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  10. The porch is half the reason we bought our house.

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  12. Would you keep a potential friend in the running with a car port? They're good places for drinking beverages and playing darts. Just sayin'.

    xo
    cortnie

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  13. thanks for the memories of an all time favorite cottage. oh JB how I miss thee! add to the criteria a JB special feature of having the best wake up experience ever - an ocean sunrise from bed.

    I feel like we have circling life circles - just returned from the Pink City of Jaipur and had a welcome back reunion with one Ms. AW... some day circles will collide!

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    1. mkay if we go one more circle w/out finally having a drink i will positively DIE. where next, oh travelling minstrel? come visit in BK. al and i live exactly ten minutes apart by foot, five by horse.

      xo

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  14. PORCHES. I have been drafting a post about them, myself.

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  15. my most magical memories take place on porches, or some version thereof. love these pictures. :)

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  16. One of my best friends was a nanny in guilford and lived in stony creek - I'd stop on my way up to MA for a sub, a walk, and a chat. Love that part of the world and miss those visits!

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    1. Aw, then you know exactly what that special little secret part of CT is like better than anyone! I had no idea, truly, how magical it was there in those little sleepy coastal towns. xo

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    2. Having grown up on the shore in Guilford and spending as much time as possible in Stony Creek, I could smell the ocean through the screens just looking at these photos.

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    3. PS. I have a sleeping/dining porch over-looking a pond in Vermont now. Not quite the ocean, but heavenly nonetheless. You're welcome to come sit on it anytime, though I recommend a hot afternoon in July or August -- gets a bit chilly otherwise...

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  17. I have a patio, under a Chinese evergreen elm, in suburban Northern California. Can that count?

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  18. Now I am convinced and I will put 'porch' on my wish list for the nest house (hopefully soon)!We plan to move in interior of British Columbia, at a marvelous place by a lake. Your photos are an inspiration:)

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  19. perfect! I am laughing loud here and if you don't mind, will steal this tactic for myself. or, work on my own porch. I am not sure yet...

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  20. wait, PS....bonus points for SLEEPING PORCHES (particularly if they are in the adirondacks)

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  21. This is the kind of house that makes my heart hurt and want to be back in New England. This is perfection in my book because it evokes so many memories of friends' homes in Boothbay Harbor and rental cottages on Monhegan Island and all the small coastal beach towns in that vicinity. Unfussy, mismatched and undeniably welcoming and comfortable. I try to bring that sensibility into my house in Buffalo, but there is something missing - most likely the smell of salt in the air. And sand on the floor. Oh, and a freaking PORCH. We have no freaking porch.

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  23. You really do have amazing friends. I'm fond of people with pools. If you have a pool we'll be close friends for sure. I do have a porch, but people is not even slightly interested when i mention it. Maybe I should change people.

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  24. my ONE lament about my current sweet apartment is the lack of an outdoor space. so i just loaded up the front window with as many plants as i can squeeze on there, and open the windows as much as possible.
    man, that's a sweet little place. i could move right in.

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  25. I want my house to be an exact replica of this. It's amazing.

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  26. dang it! grew up more or less down the road from this lil' gem--and now you've got me aching for back porch dinners at my parents' house. also: thought you should know that i just came in from sneaking a quick bite to eat on the steps of the church across the street from our apartment. when you don't have friends with porches...

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  27. ps: if i had lots of monies, i'd buy up all your landscape paintings. so's you know.

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  28. gosh how i love this, yes friends with porches by the water, dreamy.
    i love that painiting of yours.

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  29. that place looks dreamy. i love that blue mug too!

    http://poisonwood-poisonwood.blogspot.ca/

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  30. Seriously dreamy new england home! so simple and pretty. I completely agree about the porch aspect. I chose our current new home based solely on the huge front (with a porch swing!!) & back terrace porches. There's nothing better then sitting out there with friends, and I eat lunch out there nearly everyday when I need to get outdoors and take a break from my studio.

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  31. I have a overgrown garden with a table, some chairs, a grill, and soon to be a firepit and hammock. Just sayin'. Next time SF calls your name....

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  32. wow. pork-slap? seems like a southern beer if there ever was one, and combined with a tale of porches... my kind of post.

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